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Posted by Barbara Gibson Oct 15, 2006 |
Most of the time we handle tantrums really well, but then there are those days. You know the days - you're tired, or hungry, stressed, or in need of a little personal time - and before you know it, your response to the tantrum later makes you feel a wee bit guilty.
It's okay...really.
You're human. Your best looks different on different days.
Want to have more good days? Begin by forgiving yourself. Guilt is a terrible burden, and it can lead to decisions that you would not ordinarily make. While you're at it, stop beating yourself up, too. Even the best parents have bad parenting days...and a bad day does not make you a bad parent. You are a good parent that had a bad day. It happens to everyone.
Take care of yourself - I know it's hard with the rush and hurry schedules we all have, but it is important to make time to recharge a priority. "There's nothing to it but to do it." If necessary, learn to respond with a guilt free "no" when faced with new commitments and more requests on your time before you are frayed at both ends.
Don't take it personally - Most of the time, bad behavior is just that; it isn't some sort of unspoken message directed toward you or even a sign of what a horrible job you're doing. Stay calm, respond to the feelings behind the behavior and, if necessary, follow through with a compassionate consequence.
Get support when you need it - every parent needs a supportive ear. Find a friend that can listen to what you feel are your parenting faults and fears and offer you the encouragement and perspective you need.