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Posted by Barbara Gibson Nov 16, 2006 |
It seems that peer pressure isn't just for little people anymore; parents feel it, too. Keeping up with the Joneses is not uncommon, but when it comes to parenting it can be plain crazy.
Instead of worrying about how you think you don't measure up, think about all the ways you' re a great parent.
Take a moment now to consider your parenting strengths. It wouldn't hurt to make a list that you can pull out for encouragement from time to time. While you're at it, why not also make a promise to try not to compare yourself to other parents?
So what if Brittany's mom can make costumes by hand and host parties with bakery style cakes made in her own kitchen. You have your own unique talents and strengths as a parent.
So Joshua's dad can build treehouses with one hand tied behind his back, but you are doing your best to distinguish between a table saw and a circular saw? Switch your focus from what you can't do or don't know to what you can do and do know.
When we compare, we sell ourselves short.
Having a hard time making a list of your parenting strengths and talents? Here's a little nudge to get those creative juices flowing.
- Compile your list of parenting strengths on a "good" parenting day. It is much easier to think about where your strengths lie when you feel like you are making, rather than misiing, the mark.
- Incorporate "appreciations" into family meetings or meals. Children always love to hear why you think they're great, and you may be surprised to learn all the things your children appreciate about you.
- Ask a trusted friend that has observed you with your child to help you identify your parenting strengths.
- Talk to yourself as you would talk to a trusted friend. Think about what you would say to that friend and then say those things to yourself.
Hang in there! You're doing great!