We all have a few parenting tricks up our sleeves, but sometimes we forget. The following tips are reminders and suggestions for encouraging good behavior at any age.
You can't go wrong if you try some of these tips with teens, tweens and even toddlers!
- offer age appropriate choices
- set clear expectations
- understand your child's age and stage, and parent accordingly
- make sure your child understands the rules
- enforce the rules consistently
- be firm but kind
- admit mistakes
- don't be afraid to say no
- know when your child is hungry, tired, or having a tough time managing a transition
- notice good behavior
- offer regular encouragement
- listen
- spend casual time with your child
- release the need to "win"
- enjoy activities and outlets that recharge you
- let your children do what they can as they grow in ability and age
- keep the big picture in mind to avoid parent peer pressure
- hold family meetings
- decide it is okay if you aren't perfect
- maintain a sense of humor
- ask for help when you need it
- give or take a time out
- take a cue from your kid
- ignore attention seeking behavior that isn't harmful
- ignore behavior that really doesn't matter
- notice progress
- work on one problem behavior at a time
- make sure kids have opportunities to feel successful
- talk less, act more
- say what you mean and avoid saying what you don't mean
- make a list of your parenting goals to refer to when you're having a hard time.
- use positive self-talk, encourage yourself.
